I hypothesize that underlying every “how to” themed article is a dark secret (other than than those that I write, I know it to be the case for me). We don’t write these articles because we have definitively perfected the art of XYZ, we write these articles because we are still in the throes of…
Showing up consistently to do what is necessary to not engage in your most damaging behaviours. This is what recovery looks like. I want to address two stereotypes about recovery in this post: Bulls**t. Most of the work required for long-term recovery for most people does not happen in the container of an in-patient clinic.…
We’ve all heard of that book. I hold issue with most of self-help literature. It seems all too often to constitute a set of directions that the author, in their perceived (or perhaps, simply publishable) sense of success and satisfaction, retrospectively believes that they followed to get there. Even if those directions did lead to…
Do people who run marathons know they don’t have to? I understand this point of view. For us fanatics, marathon training and racing is a serious undertaking, but it lacks a serious purpose. It does not demand any of our time or energy, and yet we expend both profusely for the purposes of covering 26.2…
I am a part of all that I have met. And all that I have lost is a part of me. Grieving is the process of processing loss. This process is both difficult and necessary. Grief is an oscillation in our minds that vacillates rapidly with great peaks and troughs at first, and hopefully decays…
When I lived with my parents as a child, they were in the habit of ordering an annual skip to dispose of junk. Some years construction materials filled up most of it, but there was always space reserved for the ‘crap’ families such as our own accumulate over time. Crap that once served a purpose…
This blog is about being happy. In fact, all blogs are about being happy. Actually, everything we write, say, do and aspire to is to be happy and to support other people to be happy (I think that is what love is?). I have some qualms with the goal of happiness as I think it…
Edgar D. Mitchell was an astronaut on the Apollo XIV mission. In the documentary, In the Shadow of the Moon (2007), he spoke of the fleeting sense of connection he experienced with the cosmic dust that surrounded their spacecraft: The biggest joy was on the way home. In my cockpit window, every two minutes: The…
Once, during a therapy session, I was talking through a recent experience with Dr. A. There was a pause on her end. Not the intentional kind, when a good therapist wants to allows space for a feeling to come to surface or for a new insight to sink in; but rather the pause of a…
Let’s talk about love. In her book, ‘All About Love‘, bell hook’s defines love as: “Love is the will to extend one’s self for the the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth”. My interpretation of this is that love is simultaneously a fuzzy feeling, a more concrete intention and a tangible act of…